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Sex After Baby
How to have pleasurable, pain-free sex after delivery
by: Dr. Cheryl Fraser
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et’s face it, when new moms get any time between the sheets, there’s only one thing they want to do – and that’s sleep. If you’re worried about your lagging libido (or are afraid sex after baby might involve more pain than pleasure), here’s how to get the lovemaking back, now that the baby-making is done.Don’t wait too long to make love
Once your medical doctor tells you intercourse is safe, have sex as soon as you can. It's important to simply make love without it being a big deal.
If you've already waited long enough that sex is starting to be a big deal, see the previous point, and make love today.
If that feels like something you're reluctant to do, please take solace in the fact that you are absolutely normal. Having a baby is a huge thing, and creates a big psychological shift for most people. As a woman, your breasts now give milk, your vagina gave birth, you may still be sore, your body may not be the shape and tautness that used to help you feel sexy, and you may be emotionally overwhelmed with the enormity of the responsibility of motherhood.
Of course it can be difficult to transition from all of that to a place of mental desire and sexual motivation. That is why I encourage you to simply grab your man, head for the bedroom, and explore together. The longer you wait, the bigger a "deal" it becomes.
